Basically, most people aren't in love, and actually, despise it as a weakness when they have the opportunity to show it.
We are a generation of narcissists that crave approval to ratify our identities and perceptions. Any such identity violations are seen as an attack against our humanity, and thus anti-human. As love falls into this category, most people are too immature and emotionally dependant on their egos/pride to experience it.
How many times have you heard the following:
- Keep toxic people away from you.
- Invest in those who support your dreams.
- If they can't see your worth, they're not worth seeing.
These ideas are built around the ego. They are rooted in our vainglorious drive to maintain self-integrity. Why? Because we don't like hearing that our ideas and beliefs are wrong. The truth? They most likely are because we don't have full knowledge of the universe.
Mishandled identity violations are the cornerstone of our problem. They lead to psychological variance, breakdown, and twisting of individual reality to which there is no limitation or moderator. In our pursuit of individualism, we have rejected the limitations of human perception and have proclaimed the supremacy of our ignorance. Any such deviation from this we purpose to handle as trauma, creating fantasies in our minds that when compounded twist us into creatures that cannot love.
Love keeps no record of wrong, never pursues its own, is willing to go to the end of life to serve and take care of another person. Love never asks for anything but gives without hesitation. Love bears all things, believes all things, endures all things.
The Judeo Christian texts remind us that we are to always think of others as more important than ourselves. We are to serve our enemies. We are to always seek to live in peace. We are never to judge. Why? The Architect of the Universe who wrote it knows how we work. This wrestle is as old as time itself.
The ego ultimately hates love — but loves itself.
— Micah