Be Free From Pornography - But Not In The Way You Think

Pornography is a hot word in many circles. It means everything and nothing, and is usually seen as a source of evil.

Let's start off by defining a truth:

This goes for any addiction... because that's what pornography is usually referring to. It's a slippery slope concept that blindly scoops up everything people need it to mean.

In fact, some people actually think pornography is equivalent to adultery.

This is not correct and violates a significant portion of Biblical grace, Christ's teachings, and even the Mosaic Law.

In reality, pornography is the writing of prostitution, or in our case, the photographing of adulteries.

This means taking pictures or video of you and your wife while you have sex is not pornography. You heard me. It aslo means that photos or videos of other married people having sex isn't pornography either. See how most people would immediately start to balk?

Basically, we've re-written the word to mean, "visualization of sex."

Funny thing is... that's not wrong. It can't be, because it's just a thing. It may be used incorrectly or used to hurt someone... but it's not wrong. In fact, take a read through Song of Solomon and the metephorical sex that takes place should be enough to get a man or lady boner activated... unless you don't know what the writing means. Yes, in context, Song of Songs is like pornography... just without the porneia, πορνεία, which is greek for: prostitution, adultery, pedophilia, promiscuity, homosexuality, lesbianism, incest, premarital sex and bestiality. It's the proper way of conducting sexuality, written down on paper. To get a little edgy, its like a literary, monogamous Kama Sutra for straght people.

You think that's about a litteral orchard? Fruit and flowers were always used in place of the genitals in acient Hebrew and Arabic writings.

Yes, that means she's going down to suck on his penis with her mouth. The entire book is like that.

So, what about the visualization of such a thing, i.e., photographs? Surely that is wrong somehow?

Human beings do this thing where we like to condemn the things in the world... and not our hearts. Putting this simply, can the pure read Song of Solomon and see the beauty of God through sexuality? Yes. Can they also do it while looking at a visual representation of sexuality? Yes. Yes, they can.

But... what about the fact that two people in a video might not be married?? Also, what if the meat was sacrificed to Ba'al?? Same thing. Yes, they should have been married and the meat should have been sacrificed to God... but they weren't and it wasn't. Enjoy the reading of the book of Songs and enjoy the pleasure of visual sexuality.

Wait, what? Enjoy the pleasure of visual sexuality? Isn't that wrong??

Humans seek to condemn feeling sexy. It's like a knee jerk response to something we know we can't control or manipulate without first investing in loving our neighbor, so we immediately condmen it, just like Adam did to his own nakedness in Eden after they ate the fruit.

It's okay to feel sexual arousal. It's biologically a part of us, and if it's not your spouse that catalizes it, that's okay. Why? Because if it's not, then everything that turns you on before you are married... or after a marriage ends... is causing you to sin. Such is not the case, nor is there any such concept in the Bible.

Setting Yourself Free From The Drug of Sexuality

There are three ways we get addicted to pornography:

1. Being told your body and its sexuality is shameful so you should reject it, which causes the desires to well-up uncontrolled and you then look at itbecause it satisfies the "grass is greener" mechanism in your mind.
2. Looking at it over and over without a God-focused goal -- like taking your sexual urges out on a wife/husband after getting aroused.
3. Using it and/or an orgasm to mask another sin; such as fear, anger, jealousy, etc. The sexual release is a calming drug that pretends to alleviate those sins... but in reality enslaves you to both.

Any one of these three, once addiction occurs, can project you into a cycle of confusion that twists sexuality into something it was never supposed to be.

• It's not shameful and you're okay to feel aroused. Period. Enjoy it, and then control it -- not through masterbation.
• Use any and all arousels to project you towards a wife/husband... or the goal of getting one. If you are very much driven by your sexual urges, that's not a bad thing. Paul, in the New Testament, calls it "burning" and it is NEVER condemned. In fact, if you burn... find a wife/husband and have lots of sex with them.
• Do not use it to mask fear, anger, or jealousy. People eat their feelings, take drugs, persue thrills, abuse sex, use pornography to deaden the other issues in their lives, trying to outrun the anxiety and tension that come from them. You need to contront THOSE issues head on, and stop using pornography as a tool to "control" them, because you really aren't.

NOTE: Pornography is often used as an control mechanism, just like alcohol, drugs, food, sex, anger, jealousy, and many other things. It's quick and easy to injest and produces just enough endorphins to calmn you down and help you think, especiually after masturbating. Having a panic attack? It only seems logical to get it under control, and pornography is an engaging tool to do so.

Godly "Pornography?"

Yes, you read that right. No, I don't actually mean porneia, πορνεία, or sexual immorality. I mean the opposite of that... in pictural or literary form. The Song of Solomon is a great example from the Bible, but expressing our love for each other may not be limited to just that.

In the end, it comes down to -- how are you using them? To show love and compassion and increase transparency/communication with your spouse?

All pagan cultures have used the beauty of sexuality to promote: prostitution, adultery, pedophilia, promiscuity, homosexuality, lesbianism, incest, premarital sex and bestiality. Obviously, these are wrong.

Any and all references to sexuality should drive you to your marriage and your own marriage bed,
even looking at the beauty of another person.

God created beauty, sexuality, and sensuality, and we have a horrible habit of condeming His creation instead of our own mistakes. We blame the nakedness, instead the eating of the fruit.

So, free yourself from the addictions to pornography. Then use any and all methods of arousel to project you towards marriage.

— Micah